but versus and

Our language determines our thinking, attitudes and actions. However, the way in which a sentence is articulated can negate what came before:

Your presentation was great, but…

I like you very much, but…

To use a crude English saying:

‘Everything before the but(t) is bullshit’

Consciously attending to your own language, and replacing ‘but’ with ‘and’, opens up new perspectives and tends to create a positive resonance, both for yourself and your dialogue partner. It can be a conscious step towards a higher tolerance of ambiguity and integration.

Enjoy trying it out!