but versus and
Our language determines our thinking, attitudes and actions. However, the way in which a sentence is articulated can negate what came before:
Your presentation was great, but…
I like you very much, but…
To use a crude English saying:
‘Everything before the but(t) is bullshit’
Consciously attending to your own language, and replacing ‘but’ with ‘and’, opens up new perspectives and tends to create a positive resonance, both for yourself and your dialogue partner. It can be a conscious step towards a higher tolerance of ambiguity and integration.
Enjoy trying it out!