Reflection is a fundamental method for learning. At its root, the requirement for reflecting on one’s own behaviour and strategies is quite simple: just say STOP! Interrupt the loop of demands in your everyday life for one minute; direct your voice inwards and observe how you experience the situation and your behaviour. Is the situation developing in a way that corresponds to my ideas and values? If not, what can I change about my behaviour and my attitude?
One method that we value very much at biniasz und partner for reflecting on communicative behaviour focuses on the three perceptual positions according to Robert Dilts.
The first position stands for your own perspective, your own striving and feelings.
The second position represents the perspective of your discussion partner. Putting yourself into the second position means to truly sympathize with how it is going for the other person in this situation. What are you thinking? What are you feeling? What are your motives?
The third position is that of a neutral observer. How do I perceive the situation if I look at it from a third-person remove? What do I see from this perspective? What information do I have access to here?
Using the three positions means collecting information from different perspectives in order to expand your own perception and to gain new insights into solutions.